Swing-shift Kisses

Like every princess, they have their prince charming. Like some mothers, they have their husband. And whenever they show their love, it is with a kiss. That is how their kids learn and began to cherish love.

My own experience support Scott Saalman’s idea that the kiss his parents give should be cherished. From what I have experienced, my parents were a little different from Saalman’s. The one thing I remember from my parents was that kiss they would give each other every morning when my father or mother would go off to work. I would always watch them say goodbye to each other with a nice kiss but it was always a quick one. Saalman said he had a bad love life at one point in his life. I also, had a few bad experiences but I've have learned to look back at that kiss from my parents. Saalman experience his parents love life and it’s was a beautiful one. Now that he was older and learned to look back at it, he affirms that the love is still strong. Unlike my parents, even though it is all over for them, they have taught me well. I will always thank my parents for that kiss they shared.  I will always cherish it just like Saalman learn to do.

According to Scott Saalman, in the essay “Swing-shift Kisses”, love should be cherished. He stops what he is doing and watches the kiss his parents give each other. Saalman’s father has a routine of when he touches lips with her. One week at 3:15 pm, another week, at 8:15 am, and at 11:15 pm. As he gets ready for work, Saalman’s mother prepared his lunched. Once he was ready, she would tiptoe and was ready for the smooch. Once Saalman turned Forty-five and he had gone through his love life, he began to repeat his parents kiss in his head. He learned to believe in that one kiss and have hope that one day his life would be as his parents. http://thisibelieve.org/essay/49173/

            Next time you are with your partner, or see ones relationship going off good, remember that if you cherish it, you will have a successful love life. Even if you do not have a love one, you will have that in mind that love should always be cherished in order to have a awesome relationship. 

The Second-Hardest Job

           

           When ever you feel like giving up on your step kids, think back to all the happy and grateful moments you've had with them. This will really help the job of being a step parent so much easier. Even though it will not be easy, the risk will not cost anything.

Step parenting can be one hard job for a woman but also can bring lots of joy afterwards. Tina Boscha says that she became a stepparent for two girls. She had married a guy with kids and had good relationship with these girls mother. I believe that if a biological parent is going to be away from the family, the kids should always go with their other parent. That will discard the possibility of becoming a hard task. Now on the other hand, if the stepparent does not mind being with the kids, there are moments when it does become hard. Even though the role of being a real parent can be easy, most of the time the person can go insane. They might not know how to play the role. In my experience, since I have been taking care of my siblings since I was a kid, I kind of know how to work it out. Being a stepparent is like being a babysitter, they are not your kids but you still take good care of them. It may be hard but if you are used to the role, it becomes a much easier task to do. 

According to Tina Boscha, in the essay “The Second-Hardest Job”, being a stepparent is one hard job for a woman. Boscha did not know when she was considered being a stepparent until the kids used the word “mommy”. Both Boscha and her stepdaughter’s mother work as a team and co parent.  She believes that if her husband is not there, it would make it difficult for her to be a parent for his kids. She also tries to make the best out of it whenever she has the kids to herself. Being a step mom is not so easy but Boscha knows that she will have to be a stepmom for the rest of her life. It will not be hard for her to keep up with this role so she will make it work. http://thisibelieve.org/essay/7303/

Being a step parent can be hard, but there can always be solutions to it. Treating them like your kids can be the best solution to make this job easier to handle. This job doesn’t always have to be hard, as long as you know how to handle it. 

Remembering All the Boys

When I Die, I will like tons of flowers to be placed in my tomb. I know that my grandpa up in heaven can feel the love we give him with all the flowers he receives his family.  Flowers are always a symbol of love and care we have towards someone or something.

Every human being deserves flowers in their tombs. Bautista experiences other graves sad and lonely with nothing to comfort them with and it makes her sad. I feel like it is depressing seeing graves this way because it shows that they are not being missed. A way to show that you’re showing love toward these people is by spending time and visiting them once in a while. This is what Bautista and her friend did when they would go to visit the two boys killed unfairly.  I presences a death of a friend and his death was due to gang bangers. To show some love and respect, we wore rosaries and his favorite color but most importantly, we all brought flowers to support his family. From my experience, I also lost a loved one. As a family, we reunite on his birthday and father’s day. We also try coming on our own spare time to show that we have not forgotten about him just like Bautista does with her brother in the essay. Elvia Bautista has a great opinion which I respectfully agree with. Every individual has the right to have flowers in their grave. 

According to Elvia Bautista, in the This I Believe essay “Remembering All the Boys”, thinks flowers should be placed in each individual’s tomb. Her brother was shot at due to someone liking blue and he liking red. Bautista thought that she needed to find revenge for whatever they had done to her loved one. Since that was not a good idea, she did not do anything but go and visit her brother and put flowers on his grave. Her and some friend would go and visit him and some other kid who was killed for the same reason. Bautista never did this act to harm or favor anything, all she wanted is to never forget the memory of her brother and admire him with bloom of plants. http://thisibelieve.org/essay/21255/

Whenever I visit my grandfather, my family brings flowers to show how much they miss him and love him too. It is right that every human should have flowers in their grave just to show how much they still mean to us.